The courtship topic has been so slippery especially among the modern-day youth who don’t give it that much weight. This is a very serious business since it involves one’s future. It’s about your final destination.
Tell this to a millennial and see a whole bunch of ignorant, selfish, and lustful organisms. What they don’t know is that this period is very important since both partners get to know each other quite well. You can’t afford to put your life in the hands of an unknown person.
The reason why there are so many broken marriages and increased gender violence is that these young people do not take their time. Many singles don’t know their partners until they get married and meet real shockers. They have all the time to get to know this person better but they choose to waste it.
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What happens with most partners before marriage in this generation is worrying. All they do is say I love you and I miss you from morning till late night, go to the cinema, coconut beaches, shag like sex-depraved persons, pose all around town and upload pictures on social media to shame their enemies while announcing to all the witches in their villages that they are engaged. They don’t take their time to verify whether they have really made the right choice before taking a journey of no return.
The error of civilization and digitalization has managed to take this confusion to a higher level. They say if it’s not meant to be then it will never be even if you take forever to know your partner. So, in short, you don’t have to take your time. They believe they can always change. After all the court supports divorce.
What hurts most is that these young people have now formed the habit of breaking engagements without considering the feelings of their partners. This has led to so many of them committing suicide, running mad and some never venture into any relationship for the rest of their lives because they are still nursing fresh heart-breaking wounds.
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Courtship can be broken two minutes before the wedding but once married, forever married. It’s not a sign of weakness to confess to your fiancé or fiancée you made a mistake. You thought you heard God but now you have realized you really didn’t and want to back out. Study your partner over and over again to ensure you have picked right before heading to the altar.
Marriage is serious business, it’s for mature men and women not for boys and girls. Until you are ready for serious courtship and marriage, don’t venture into it.
How mature are you?
You alone have the answer.