If You Are Pursuing A Deal Or Something Big For Your Career, Avoid Sex At All Costs

KEY POINTS
Building a business is anything but natural; it’s a grueling, sleepless, and often unromantic marathon. It demands the kind of commitment usually reserved for Spartan warriors. Success rarely shows up to those who casually flirt with it—like a possessive lover, it wants all of you. So ask yourself: are you willing to trade a few fleeting moments for years of potential success?
KEY TAKEAWAYS
The World Bank notes that in emerging economies, a shocking 60% of small businesses fail within the first three years. Now, why do so many ambitious, talented individuals hit a wall? Distractions, misplaced priorities, and yes, lack of discipline. When your energy is split between bedroom endeavors and boardroom battles, something’s gotta give.
Entrepreneurs, business owners, and the bold army of self-employed warriors, listen closely. You’re on a mission—an uphill grind to build, conquer, and create something big. You want to break records, flip the script, turn your dream into your destiny. But here’s a paradox for you: sometimes, the biggest distraction isn’t coming from your competitors or cash-flow issues, but rather from an unexpected, insidious source. Yes, we’re talking about sêx. The act itself. That “soul-clearing” exercise that might be messing with your business mojo more than you think.
Let’s not skirt around the facts here. Research on athletes, warriors, and high performers over centuries shows that excessive indulgence in “relations” can drain not just physical energy but also mental clarity. Modern studies suggest that post-coital bliss actually induces a neurochemical cocktail that can lull your drive. Dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin—all the feel-good chemicals spike, leaving you in a blissful haze. Great for romance, not so much for razor-sharp focus and the insane grit required in entrepreneurship. Call it hormonal betrayal, if you will. That post-high can leave you blissfully indifferent when you’re supposed to be paranoid about tomorrow’s strategy.
If you’re single, let’s face it, your pursuit of success should be your primary lover right now. Think of sêx as a sweet seductress distracting you from the all-important pursuit of goals. In fact, some of the most legendary business minds, like Nikola Tesla, have famously stayed celibate for a reason. Tesla believed that the power to abstain was directly tied to his ability to create, innovate, and envision the future. Now, no one’s saying you need to be a modern-day Tesla (you’d have to skip the pigeons), but perhaps the secret sauce to achievement lies in a little self-discipline.
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Let’s consider the numbers. The World Bank notes that in emerging economies, a shocking 60% of small businesses fail within the first three years. Now, why do so many ambitious, talented individuals hit a wall? Distractions, misplaced priorities, and yes, lack of discipline. When your energy is split between bedroom endeavors and boardroom battles, something’s gotta give. Energy flows where attention goes, and when that attention is divided, your business suffers. Why let one night of bliss jeopardize a lifelong dream?
One might argue, “But sêx is natural, a release!” Sure, it is, but so is failure when you aren’t giving your all to what truly matters. Building a business is anything but natural; it’s a grueling, sleepless, and often unromantic marathon. It demands the kind of commitment usually reserved for Spartan warriors. Success rarely shows up to those who casually flirt with it—like a possessive lover, it wants all of you. So ask yourself: are you willing to trade a few fleeting moments for years of potential success?
Consider the age-old advice of delayed gratification. Studies from Stanford and countless follow-ups on willpower and success confirm that those who can postpone pleasure achieve greater long-term results. Entrepreneurs who harness that principle in every area of life, sêx included, have a far higher chance of breaking through the noise and actually making it. There’s a reason why “abstinence before achievement” is a rule in many cultures, from martial artists to monks to motivational speakers. Focus requires sacrifice, and if you’re serious about this dream, maybe it’s time to treat sêx like the dessert you’ll only have once the main course of success is done.
Imagine your energy as capital. In business, every dollar you have should be working for you, not wasted on frivolous expenses. So, think of your sêxual energy the same way. Spending it willy-nilly is akin to throwing precious investment capital out the window. Channel it, save it, pour it all into the venture you’re trying to build. Consider this: the average person loses up to 30% of their productivity the day after a passionate encounter. Multiply that over months, years, and you’re looking at missed opportunities and stunted growth, all because you couldn’t put the big goal over the big urge.
And here’s the kicker—psychologists have found that sêx, especially for the unmarried, often brings a side effect known as “relationship maintenance.” It’s a fancy way of saying you’re suddenly playing partner, friend, therapist, and everything in between, all of which demand energy. Are you really prepared to take on that mental load when your startup is barely surviving, or when your business needs every ounce of attention? It’s not fair to you or to them.
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Now, some of you might argue, “Isn’t it possible to have both?” Of course, anything’s possible. But remember, this isn’t about achieving mediocrity. If you’re here to be average, then, by all means, be balanced. But if you’re here to be legendary, to make a dent in the universe, then give sêx a raincheck. You don’t see a marathon runner stopping for a picnic mid-race. Sêx is the leisurely Sunday brunch when you’re trying to make it in a game that demands relentless effort.
Still unconvinced? Think of the multi-million dollar business owners who live, breathe, and sleep their ventures. For these individuals, sêx is a mere afterthought. Warren Buffet? Bill Gates? Elon Musk? For every second they spend indulging, they’ve spent countless more hours grinding, strategizing, planning. So, unless you’re convinced that your ideas are on the same level as theirs and can withstand distraction, maybe hold off on romantic escapades.
And to be clear, this isn’t about being prudish. This is about survival, success, and sanity. You’ll have plenty of time to indulge once the empire is built, the battles are won, and the financial security is secure. Why divide your focus now when a concentrated effort could mean sêxier rewards down the line? Picture the satisfaction of having the freedom to do as you please when your business is thriving because you gave it the dedication it deserved.
In the end, only the disciplined survive the entrepreneurial grind. So if you’re up for the challenge, make sêx the cherry on top, not the main course. Embrace the discomfort, the sacrifice, the singular focus. Remember, you’re not just running a business; you’re building a legacy. Hold off on the instant gratification; let success be your true lover.
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About Steve Biko Wafula
Steve Biko is the CEO OF Soko Directory and the founder of Hidalgo Group of Companies. Steve is currently developing his career in law, finance, entrepreneurship and digital consultancy; and has been implementing consultancy assignments for client organizations comprising of trainings besides capacity building in entrepreneurial matters.He can be reached on: +254 20 510 1124 or Email: info@sokodirectory.com
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