Trust is a Logical and Emotional Affair

Trust is both logical and emotional and differs among human beings. When one has trust in other people, it means that he or she has exposed his or her vulnerability to those people with hope and believe that those people will not take advantage of their trust and hurt them instead. This is the emotional part.

In business, the assessment of probabilities of both gain and loss and then in the process calculate the expected utility basing on the performance and then reach a conclusion about a person’s behaviour, that is trust but in a logical manner. It is something like a pattern.

The application of trust is often in the emotional manner. You will hear people say, “I don’t trust that person,” or “That person has some trust issues” and so on. There is an old Nigerian saying that says that, “If you find yourself counting money after withdrawing it from an ATM, then you have trust issues.” Trust, therefore, is part and parcel of human beings and it often directs how people relate to each other.

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People feel trust. Betrayals exist where there is absence of trust. Many businesses have failed to continue or even take off as a result of lack of trust among business partners. Some countries have been plunged into a political turmoil due to lack of trust among the top political brass. Trust is, therefore,  is very essential in people’s day to day lives. There are various emotions that are associated with companionship, friendship, love, agreement, relaxation and comfort.

When you put your trust in people, you expect confidentiality as well as a back to lean on in case of any emotional problem. Many people, however, use this trust to hurt you in a future time when you fall out or when they get an opportunity to do that.

Why do we need trust?

Trust is a fundamental ingredient to life and without a trust in anything, life becomes intolerable and unbearable. A person without trust is always in a constant fear and worry of an imminent danger as well as disaster. Such people are always in danger, always thinking of how to defend themselves without even knowing what the real danger is.

Strong relationships are founded and built on trust. Even intimacy entirely depends on trust. More marriages have hit a dead end simply by lack of trust and mostly not by actually infidelity between the partners. If you always suspect your partner of not being faithful without any viable prove and sometimes want to force them to follow and adhere to some form of faithfulness, then you lack trust in them.

In many homesteads, spouses don’t trust each other with their mobile phones. Someone would rather commit suicide than handing over his or her phone to the partner. There is a simple joke of a conversation between a man and his wife that shows how mistrust exists when it comes to mobile phones:

WIFE: Honey, will you kill a lion for me?

MAN: Are you crazy? How can I kill a lion?

WIFE: Okay then. Help me with your phone. I want to send some messages.

MAN: Where is that lion? I will kill it for you!

One day, my dad was looking for a remote. He asked if I had seen it. “Have you seen the remote?” I said no. “Stand up.” He said. That simple conversation with my dad showed that he did not trust me when I told him that I did not have a remote and he had to confirm whether I was hiding it in my pockets.

There is nothing as important at workplace than trust. An organization brings together a group of people from diverse cultures to work together. In an organization, without trust, there will be always backstabbing, fear, paranoid and constant suspicion that will always affect the productivity of the organization. There is nothing as stressful as working for a boss who doesn’t trust you. He or she will always suspect if you can do something right and will often be checking on you from time to time, pressuring you, correcting your mistakes even if you yourself see none and your life will be one hell on earth. People who don’t trust one another at workplaces often spend much of their time watching their back.