By Getrude Matayo
Everyone has failed at something, whether it be a failed relationship, fitness goal, business, or examination. While failures feel bad, you can end up on top with the right attitude.
Accept your mistakes and learn how to approach problems differently.
Listen to feedback and try new ideas. The important thing is asking yourself how you can learn from your failures.
Accept that things did not work out as planned. Even if you worked hard on something, it’s important to acknowledge and accept that it didn’t work, don’t become obsessed at improving something that is done or not working.
Take a break. You may not want to jump right back into your project after a failure and that’s fine. If you are burned out need some time to clear your head, take some time off. You might start a different job or move onto a different project for the time being and wait to come back to your failed project.
Investigate what went wrong. It might feel painful at first but spend some time assessing why you failed and what went wrong.
Learn your lessons. Don’t analyze every little problem that went wrong or everything you should have done in the past. Instead, focus on what you have learned from these mistakes so that these lessons can propel you forward.
View failure as part of a process. Failure does not have to be the end. Think of it as the start or middle of a process. Keep at it and recognize that failure is normal and part of having new experiences and being human.
See yourself as a risk-taker. Instead of seeing yourself as a failure, see yourself as a risk-taker. Failure means that you tried something that didn’t work so now you have the new opportunity to try something new of different. It’s the perfect opportunity to give something new ago.
Recognize that you are not a failure. Don’t evaluate your self-worth through the lens of your failure. Who you are is much larger than one failure you have experienced just because you’ve struggled with one thing does not mean you’ve failed in all areas of your life.
Celebrate your failures. If you get turned down a job, don’t get down on yourself for your perceived failure. Instead, congratulate yourself for putting yourself out there and making an effort.
Listen to feedback. If you receive feedback on your performance or project, take it to heart. See it as helpful, not personal, or negativity critical. Find out what parts other people think are working and which parts are not working.