Dear You, Here Is A List Of 21 Secrets To A Happy Marriage

By Getrude Mathayo / Published June 8, 2021 | 2:52 pm




KEY POINTS

A marriage is a blissful journey with your soulmate, true, but it also requires work. Ask anyone you perceive as relationship goals, and they will reiterate the same.


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A marriage is a blissful journey with your soulmate, true, but it also requires work. Ask anyone you perceive as relationship goals, and they will reiterate the same.

Although that does not mean it cannot be fun and exciting. Life is full of ups and downs, and your relationship will be tested through those trying times.

It is no secret that having a happy marriage does not happen all by itself. But there are secrets that help make marriage the best it can be. Whether a newlywed or married for years, maintaining open communication takes thought, effort, and prayer.

  1. Communication is Key

Talking and communicating often with your spouse is one of the best ways to keep your marriage happy and healthy. Do not expect your partner to read your mind, convey what you are feeling with empathy. An important part of good communication is also listening; wait for them to finish what they are saying, understand and then, answer.

  1. Appreciate Your Spouse

A small appreciation every day can go a long way! When you are with someone all the time, it’s easy to fall back on gratitude for their presence and take them for granted.

We all need to feel appreciated and assured from time to time. And it feels amazing when it comes from someone who means the world to us.

  1. Assume the Best of One Another

Whatever happens, it is important to understand that your partner probably means the best. Even if they make you angry about something awful, their intentions were likely pure.

  1. Do Not Ever Stop Trying

Happiness can be a kind of trap because it comes in short bursts. You must strive for contentedness, which is a continuous state of mind, and one that feels doable. “Being happy comes with pressure. It makes it sound like it is the partner’s job

  1. Accept your partner for who they are

Accept your partner just for who they are. Do not try to change them. Just accept their strengths and weaknesses that make them unique and that you love them for that.

  1. Learn how to compromise.

All couples fight. But half the battle of marriage is knowing which fights to pick and which ones you should meet your spouse on halfway. When you love each other, you commit to making the bumpy road of life smoother together.

  1. Be physically affectionate with one another.

Making your spouse feel loved sometimes means more than just listening to their wants and needs physical affection is important, too

  1. Always Be Flexible

If we are too rigid, we resist facing the unexpected. A couple’s ability to ‘go with the flow especially when it is dramatically different from what they expected gives them the opportunity to learn new skills and, more importantly, get to know each other in ways they might never have known before

  1. Be Willing to Grow and Learn

It is all about how people react that defines a relationship. If we are willing to learn from our mistakes as they relate to our partner’s needs and desires, we will thrive personally, and in the relationship. The willingness to admit mistakes, and apologize sincerely, is an important key in creating a deeper bond with our partner

  1. Enjoy one another’s company

With work, social commitments, and other family members competing for your time, it may be difficult to allocate one-on-one time with your spouse. But making a point to do so and enjoying it can make your relationship stronger in the long run

  1. Maintain the friendship in your relationship.

As your relationship progresses, do not forget to maintain your friendship along with the romantic side of your relationship

  1. Live in the moment

Turning otherwise boring activities into small romantic opportunities can keep the passion alive, no matter how long you have been together.

  1. Make sure you have the same financial priorities

While savers and spenders can happily coexist, it is important to see eye-to-eye on your longer-term financial goals to keep your marriage on steady footing

  1. Do not be afraid to give each other space

Space does not have to be a bad thing. Just because you want to spend time away from your partner does not mean you love or cherish them any less.

  1. Do not always live in the future

While it can be nice to envision your future with someone, if you are always focused on what is to come, you will not actually be appreciating your partner in the now which leads to a problem in the future

  1. Prioritize Sex

Over the course of the marriage, and life taking over, the desire to be intimate can lessen. Having regular sex has been associated with a key ingredient to a happy marriage. An effort to have an intimate time together can lead to a patient, content married life. Plan regular dates, and take a vacation to stay connected

  1. Be Open About Your Finances

Talking about money is one of the most intimate conversations a couple can have. Whether you keep separate bank accounts or are a share-everything type of couple, talks about finances need to happen early and often.

  1. Pay Attention to the Little Things

Small gestures carry a lot of weight, and for couples who have mutual respect, those small gestures are second nature. Simple love notes, a slightly longer hug, or kiss goodbye can make your partner feel validated and appreciated

  1. Learn what you want in bed and do not be afraid to tell your partner

If you want to keep your relationship strong over the years, make sure you are letting your partner know what you want in the bedroom especially if it is changed over time

  1. Go on Date Nights

Going to the movies with your kids can be fun, but make sure to do a parents-only date night at least once a month.

  1. Let them express their feelings first

Instead of always letting your partner know exactly how you are feeling first, make space for them to express themselves before you start sharing. Understand your partner’s point of view and let your partner know that.







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