Why is Marriage No longer a Goal to Thousands of Women?

Gone are the days when a young girl will grow up and her long-term goal was to get married and raise kids for her husband. Today, a lot of women are empowered and they have long life goals. To them, marriage is just a ‘by the way.’

A 2017 report from the Pew Research Center found one in seven people who’ve never been married before don’t want to get married ever, and another 27 percent of people aren’t sure how they feel about marriage. And 69 percent of all adults say cohabitation is just fine with or without plans to get married.

Weddings are expensive unless you go for come, we stay then plan the wedding later. Divorce on the other hand is hilarious especially if you guys are not ready to agree and worse is if kids are involved and now you have to figure out how to raise them apart.

Marriage is not that bad if you Marry your best friend as they say but are you ready to adapt to your partner’s character for the rest of your life?

Are you ready to commit? Are you ready to forgive your partner more than 70 times? How about finances how secure are you or are you willing to go that road for better for worse?

That’s why a lot of women are preferring independence and focus on their careers before settling down to get married.

Although there is still that pressure of aging without settling, having kids, or feeling judged and lonely, some women are comfortable that way and they prefer situation-ships over long-term relationships.

Below are some of the many reasons why most women are not in a rush for marriage.

1. Domestic Violence

This is one of the major killers of marriages. A lot of women get hurt due to domestic violence and some are even killed or they have been raised in that environment and they are scared of history repeating itself so they choose independence or they are not ready for another marriage.

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2. Financial stability

As a woman, it is good to have your own money before getting into marriage especially if you want to have kids and provide for them. Depending on your partner for everything is dangerous as anything can happen to your partner or he can also lack sometimes that’s why a lot of women are focusing on building their careers and banks before settling.

3. Infidelity

No one wants a cheating partner even if they are paying you to sleep outside. We are all humans and we have feelings, we get hurt especially when betrayed by someone you trusted the most. Infidelity is one of the many reasons why marriages are ending.

Once your partner cheats and you find out it can never be the same again. If you are not ready to commit to one person better be just single or try situation ships because marriage is not a bed of roses especially if you do not have a forgiving hurt and patience. That’s why a lot of women are preferring to be single because they are not ready for emotional damage.

4. Personal Choice

Some women love their space and they prefer to be independent for the rest of their lives. Some even prefer to get a man to donate sperms to them or buy sperms to get kids and raise them themselves without involving their fathers I mean is a marriage that bad?

5. Bad experience

Some women have chosen to remain single or not get into a relationship that is long-term because of the past bad experience which led to the failure of either their first or second Marriage. Although they say the second marriage is always the best, is it really?

Despite all the negative feedback, marriage is good as it provides companionship, bills are easy to pay when you cost-share, there are prenuptial agreement benefits, inheritance benefits, health insurance benefits, legal decision-making benefits, marital tax deduction, and many more. But remember all this is possible only if you are financially stable and you are willing and ready to commit and Love your partner.

EDITOR’S NOTE: Article by Doreen.