The Growth Mindset: How To Embrace The Waiting Period Before Things Fall Into Place

By Steve Biko / Published May 13, 2023 | 7:15 pm

KEY POINTS

Waiting does not mean that nothing is happening or that you are doing something wrong. It may mean that you need more time, experience, or resources to achieve your goals. Set realistic expectations for yourself and others, and avoid comparing yourself to others who may have different circumstances or opportunities.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Waiting does not mean that you have to do everything alone or isolate yourself from others. It may mean that you need more support and guidance from others who can help you grow and achieve your goals. Seek support and guidance from friends, family, mentors, coaches, or professionals who can offer you advice, encouragement, feedback, or resources.

The most trying period of growth is waiting for things to happen or fall into place. This statement captures a common challenge that many people face in their personal and professional lives.

Whether it is waiting for a promotion, a relationship, a skill, or a goal, waiting can be frustrating and discouraging. However, waiting can also be an opportunity for growth, if we adopt the right mindset.

What is a Growth Mindset?

A growth mindset, as conceived by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck and colleagues, is the belief that a person’s capacities and talents can be improved over time. People with a growth mindset tend to achieve more than those with a more fixed mindset (those who believe their talents are innate gifts). This is because they worry less about looking smart and put more energy into learning.

A growth mindset contrasts with a fixed mindset. The latter is the limiting belief that the capacity to learn and improve cannot be meaningfully developed. The growth mindset, conversely, is open to effort even if it takes time. Proponents of the theory contend that adopting a growth mindset and rejecting a fixed mindset, can help people be more open to success1.

How to Cultivate a Growth Mindset

Cultivating a growth mindset is not just about praising and rewarding effort. It is also about focusing on the process of learning and progress, rather than the outcome. Here are some strategies to develop a growth mindset:

Embrace challenges. Challenges are opportunities to learn new things and stretch your abilities. Instead of avoiding or giving up on difficult tasks, embrace them as chances to grow.
Learn from feedback. Feedback is valuable information that can help you improve your performance and skills. Instead of ignoring or taking feedback personally, seek it out and use it constructively.
Celebrate others’ success. Success is not a zero-sum game. Instead of feeling threatened or jealous of others’ achievements, celebrate them and learn from them. You can also seek out mentors and role models who inspire you and show you what is possible.
Use positive self-talk. The way you talk to yourself can have a powerful impact on your mindset and motivation. Instead of using fixed statements such as “I’m not good at this” or “I can’t do this”, use growth statements such as “I can learn this” or “I can improve with practice”.
Enjoy the journey. Growth is not a destination, but a continuous process. Instead of focusing on the end result, enjoy the journey of learning and improving. Celebrate your small wins and milestones along the way.

How to Embrace the Waiting Period

The waiting period can be seen as a threat or an opportunity, depending on your mindset. If you have a fixed mindset, you may see waiting as a sign of failure or inadequacy. You may lose hope and give up on your goals.

However, if you have a growth mindset, you may see waiting as a chance to prepare and improve yourself for the future. You may use the waiting time to work on your skills, expand your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and build your resilience.

Here are some ways to embrace the waiting period with a growth mindset:

Set realistic expectations. Waiting does not mean that nothing is happening or that you are doing something wrong. It may mean that you need more time, experience, or resources to achieve your goals. Set realistic expectations for yourself and others, and avoid comparing yourself to others who may have different circumstances or opportunities.
Be flexible and adaptable. Waiting does not mean that you have to stick to one plan or path. It may mean that you need to adjust your strategy or try different approaches. Be flexible and adaptable to changing situations and feedback, and be open to new opportunities that may arise along the way.
Seek support and guidance. Waiting does not mean that you have to do everything alone or isolate yourself from others. It may mean that you need more support and guidance from others who can help you grow and achieve your goals. Seek support and guidance from friends, family, mentors, coaches, or professionals who can offer you advice, encouragement, feedback, or resources.
Practice gratitude and optimism. Waiting does not mean that you have nothing to be grateful for or hopeful about. It may mean that you need to appreciate what you have and what you have achieved so far and look forward to what you can achieve in the future. Practice gratitude and optimism by expressing your thanks, celebrating your progress, and envisioning your success.

The most trying period of growth is waiting for things to happen or fall into place. However, waiting can also be a valuable opportunity for growth, if we adopt a growth mindset. A growth mindset is the belief that our capacities and talents can be improved over time, through hard work, good strategies, and input from others.

By cultivating a growth mindset, we can embrace challenges, learn from feedback, celebrate others’ success, use positive self-talk, and enjoy the journey of learning and improving. We can also embrace the waiting period with a growth mindset, by setting realistic expectations, being flexible and adaptable, seeking support and guidance, and practicing gratitude and optimism.