It is a funny thing about life. One look at how far you’ve come will send you wondering “How did my life become so messed up?” You will reminisce the good old memories that you had when you were young and try to fathom where it all went wrong until you let happiness fly out the window.
The truth is, how you lived life as a child is way different than how you do in adulthood. Picture this, when you were a kid, unknowingly, you always stopped to ‘smell the roses.’ You might find that a cliché now, but it is what made you happy.
When something good happened, you stopped and appreciated it. It brought a smile to your face. Nowadays, it is all about multitasking. We are struggling to make things better oblivious to the fact that those things we are working for, we enjoy them less.
It is more like watching TV. Supposing you cooked a delicious meal, served yourself and sat down on the couch to eat while watching a favorite show or movie, you won’t fully concentrate on the sweetness of the food. Your brain is struggling between the two, and that is how we deviated from the blissful childhood moments.
When you were young, your greatest distraction was happiness, and you sat down to savor that moment. As you stopped to pay attention, it made you happy. But now, you worry about the economy, how to pay bills, how to clothe your children among a plethora of other things.
Do you know what that means? It distracts you from being happy. That is among the number one reasons why Kenyans are unhappy.
Let’s take a trip down memory lane.
When you were young, making friends was so easy. How we wish those golden days were still around! You would walk up to someone, tap them on their shoulder and say, “Will you be my friend?” If the answer was yes, you had a new friend!
Also, you gave cartons shows undivided attention, your toys were your treasures, your clothes were forever trendy, you used to make tents and invite friends, you explored the world easy, there were no bills, and you could be whatever you wanted when playing a game.
These things are what made us happy. If still wonder how Kenya was named in the list of the unhappiest countries, think again. Life in adulthood is disoriented. You hardly pay attention to anything. Many do not appreciate the little they have. They are continually struggling to look like others instead of focusing on doing what brings happiness.
You Don’t Need a Reason to Be Happy
You take life too critically and forget to invite friends over for a game, to read a book, or to watch a funny show. You struggle to better things you have no power over, and you end up being miserable.
There is something most people don’t know. You don’t need a reason to be happy. A child will be thrilled just by scooping soil from the earth and looking at it, but you think that is lame.
You have convinced yourself that happiness is conditional, “Only when my conditions are met, then I will allow myself to be happy. If my conditions are not met, I will not allow myself to be happy,” that’s how you live your life.
Now the question is, what prevents you from being happy right now?
You Have Everything You Need to Be Happy
The answer is nothing. You have every right to be happy, and if you want to show others how joyous you can be, choose today. Choose to stay happy.
We have everything we need to ensure that we are happy as a country.
Aim to create happiness in the society and pool actions from everyone, not just from the political leaders but individuals too. Share your stories with the world, revisit the good old memories and conjure them to life once again.
Keep focusing on the positive and appreciate those things that make you happy. It goes a long way in easing your burdens.